The Zest of Female Relationship: A case study of the reality show – The Real Housewife of Lagos

 

Women possess unique qualities, and one might assert that they represent an evolution of the creator's design. In the act of creating something for the second time, there is typically an enhancement over the initial creation, often driven by identifying imperfections and opportunities for improvement. Examining creation from a biblical perspective, it is apparent that man, as the first being, was considered incomplete and in need of companionship. Thus, woman was created to fulfill a role that man alone could not. This perspective underscores the profound significance of feminine existence in upholding and harmonizing the universe, as evident in holy texts.

Just as any product may have flaws introduced during its development, our enhanced form may indeed exhibit certain disadvantages in various circumstances.

We’ve heard this countless of times, women are women’s enemies; it’s should be deafening to hear this now, considering how much feminism has raise the bar, women supporting women, women empowerment, and other gibberish that’s selling these days, which is far from the reality an average woman encounter on a daily basis.

Upon a thorough evaluation of the first season of 'The Real Housewives of Lagos,' it becomes evident that it portrays not the reality of housewives but rather the reality of businesswomen in Lagos. The opulent wealth and extravagant fashion showcased on the show are not everyday occurrences for most individuals. However, what undeniably rings true is the portrayal of the intricate and sometimes tumultuous nature of female friendships.

The display of intense emotions, occasional jealousy, impatience, and the act of inadvertently inheriting each other's conflicts, among other complexities, resonates with the real experiences of many. While some dramatic elements may appear contrived for entertainment value, it remains a confirmed truth that women can, at times, exhibit unreasonable behavior.

The rapid formation of cliques and the emergence of internal divisions among the group of friends, as they go to great lengths to assert seemingly frivolous arguments, can be quite astonishing. However, these dynamics are, in fact, relatable to the everyday experiences of many women in various walks of life. It is true women loves to think than they feel, but isn’t it the time for this illusion to elude us.

Despite our strength and resilience, our emotions often hold a powerful sway over us. It's an inherent aspect of our humanity and our identity as women. While we excel at multitasking, it's equally important to ensure that our minds are in harmony with our hearts, for it is this alignment that truly distinguishes us.

Women are self-sufficient and complete in themselves. It is common to witness an elderly woman living independently without raising eyebrows, a situation not always replicated for elderly men, at least in some parts of the world. Personally, I visit my grandmother's home, and she joyfully prepares my favorite soup upon request. In contrast, when a grandfather loses his spouse, the aftermath is often quite different. Many struggle with the overwhelming solitude, and those who manage to endure it are often deserving of our deepest compassion.

There’s a Yoruba adage that says; “Eni ta ba barin, Ai fura si” meaning “do not be weary or suspicious of who you walk with”, This perspective offers a profound sense of tranquility beyond measure. When people make mistakes, it's vital to recognize that these errors often stem from their sincerest intentions, free from any ulterior motives for significant harm, as we might initially assume. It's common to assess individuals based on their actions, yet we consistently evaluate ourselves by our intentions. While it is undeniable that the human heart can sometimes harbor darkness, I firmly believe that a genuinely pure heart will perpetually elevate and redeem us.

There is a pressing call for women to unite, with no room for malice, jealousy, envy, gossip, or backbiting. It's a call for women to harness the power of feminism collectively and join forces to conquer the world.