Women’s Obsession with Money: The Truth, The Facts, The Lie

 

Men has always been complaining about women been obsessed with money, and been materialistic. We’ve also been accused of not been inclined with our traditional and primary role, and undermining the position of Love in a Relationship. With all these accusation, one would think that this generation is of vicious women and nothing more.

There’s another saying of what does women bring to the Table? What more can a woman offer other than sex? Among many other scarily disgusting thing, one might have heard.  

The truth 

The stereotype of women being obsessed with money and material possessions has persisted for generations, perpetuated by media, societal norms, and preconceived notions. This preconception not only undermines women's agency and independence but also fosters a culture of sexism and gender bias. However, it is essential to recognize that women's attitudes towards money and material things are diverse and multifaceted, just like men's. Generalizing women's attitudes towards money and material things overlooks the wide array of experiences and individual differences. Just like men, women possess varied motivations and desires regarding wealth and possessions, influenced by their upbringing, environment, and personal values.

Marilyn Monroe once said in the movie Gentle Men Prefers Blonde “If a woman is spending all of the time worrying about money she doesn’t have, how is she going to have any time been in love” in as much as this dialogue is being spoken to portray a shallow minded, money hungry woman, it is a reality check! I love love, the feeling of been in love can never be compared to any other, but one is in risk of losing that love if it isn’t nurtured duly. How do you nurture love? Many books have been written concerning that, I would boldly say that without money, or been in constant need of money, you can’t achieve 50% of all what is required to nurture it.

The fact

 Historically, women's primary role revolves around family and household responsibilities. As wives and mothers, women are tasked with nurturing and caring for their children, managing household chores, and providing emotional support to the family. This role was essential in maintaining the stability and cohesion of the family unit. Imagine combining this with financial responsibility, when do you think the woman will have time to love and respect the Man, as it is also requested also.

When a Man ask the question what else does a pretty girl has to offer other than her body, throughout history, women have been associated with nurturing and caregiver roles. Their natural ability to foster strong relationships and provide emotional support makes them crucial caregivers in families and communities. As mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends, women play an instrumental role in creating a compassionate and caring society. Aside all these, there is another quote of Marilyn Monroe from the same movie that says “A man being rich is like a girl being pretty, you might not marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but my goodness, doesn’t it help?”

The Lie

The thoughts that women can handle financial responsibilities, with their primary role in the society is born from irresponsible men justifying their irresponsibility by citing examples of what they seems appropriate, and the society seem to be singing along.

I have seen many woman shouldering all this responsibilities, I can almost swear it, that they are just holding on to the last thread of hope, as they are tired and weary, trying to balance all, dying inside daily as they keep hoping for a better tomorrow. No time to Love, neither are they enjoying their marriage. Throughout history, women's financial independence and decision-making were limited due to societal norms and legal barriers. However, as societies evolved and embraced gender equality, women's roles expanded beyond traditional domestic roles. Today, many women are active participants in the workforce and manage their finances adeptly.

When next a man tells you, you like money, beat your chest hard and say yes, and I am also materialistic, because the future generation depends on the choice I am making now.